A Few Thoughts on Fear and Vulnerability
By Takia McClendon
This post was originally featured in City Fit Girls newsletter #148 for the week of October 1, 2018.
This was supposed to be a post about me running my longest distance since February 2017. While I am extremely proud of that, I’m going to use this opportunity to practice getting over one of my fears - being vulnerable (blah).
The quote “everything you ever wanted is on the other side of fear” didn’t really mean much to me until the past couple of days. You see, I consider myself a calculated, logical, critical thinking person and those qualities have allowed me to excel in academics, professional and in leadership positions for most of my life. I realized that those same qualities have led to LOTS of overthinking, missed opportunities, and mental hurdles (when used as a crutch to deal with fear).
At times, I find myself extremely bored and limited because I’ve crafted a perfectly safe world to exist in to avoid dealing with the hard stuff like traveling solo, looking for career advancement, becoming a stronger runner, and growing the City Fit Girls community.
It’s not that I don’t want these things. And it’s not that I don’t want to do the work to get them. Instead, I (over)think about all of the ways I won’t succeed in these areas and as a result, I do the bare minimum or in some cases, I do nothing at all.
Well the first step is admitting there’s a problem, right? I’ve allowed overthinking and fear to get in the way of my personal and professional growth for way too long.
I’m going to spend the next few months putting myself in situations that make me uncomfortable, even if I convince myself to do otherwise.
Here are some of the books/podcasts that have helped me come to terms with these issues (P.S. a few are affiliate links):
Kiera told me that I don’t have to end every blog post with an answer so instead of posing a solution, I’ll end with a few questions: What do you do to overcome your fear? How do you deal with the negative thoughts in your head? Share your tips and favorite resources in the comments below.